A Little Off The Top

Often times people come into the office and share they’ve been to therapy in the past, but “it didn’t really work” or “the therapist wasn’t for me.” Which makes perfect sense; different strokes for different folks, right? Finding the right therapist is critical. It sounds silly, but finding the right therapist is like finding the right hairdresser.

I love my hairdresser and will drive an hour to get to her, during the day because she doesn’t offer evening hours and I will pay what she charges without hesitation. Why? Because I trust her to do exactly what is best for me. I can close my eyes and say, “Just a trim please” and I know she will do just that. I found her through a referral of a trusted friend. I met with her and talked about what I wanted and I felt like she heard me. I got a good vibe. And that was many, many years ago. Since then, I’ve referred several of my friends to her and they’ve all been pleased.

Getting a referral from a friend or colleague is a terrific way to get into a therapist’s office. You’re looking for someone who listens and genuinely cares about you and your relationships. You want to get a good feeling after your meeting with them. Find someone who offers a consultation, even if it’s over the phone. Ask questions, share what you’d like to get out of therapy and some of the struggles you’re facing. You’ll get a sense if the person you’re talking to is the right fit for you. And if they are, schedule your first appointment!