What Do Women Really Want?

Movies have been made and books have been written about the best way to a woman’s heart. Ask any woman and they won’t tell you they desire a 20 something year old with six pack abs and a big bank account. They won’t say they are looking for a whirlwind romance with Prince Charming (spoiler alert! Prince Charming doesn’t exist).

According to Dr. John Gottman, women are after one thing: trustworthiness. Sound easy enough? Well, trustworthiness isn’t just a one dimensional concept. It’s made up of a few components like reliability, accountability and showing up as you. No games and no hidden agendas. Trustworthiness comes from being genuine, doing what you say you’re going to do and being who you represent yourself to be.

Whether you just met someone or you’ve been together for a while now, women tend to ask themselves, “Is he safe?”, “Will he be there for me?”, “Can I rely on him and depend on him?” The way a woman answers these questions is directly related to if a man represents a symbol of safety. Women don’t need you to climb up a tower to recuse them, but they do need to feel safe.